Saturday, 20 January 2018

Our kinks

The relationship between G and I is strictly vanilla. Or so I thought. There's absolutely nothing wrong with vanilla but, having not had any regular BDSM play for several months I began to see the kinky ripples in our relationship. Now would be a good time to indulge in those kinks a little more.

For my birthday G bought me a jockstrap and the tiniest men's g-string you ever did see. That's not vanilla. She occasionally likes to watch me parade around the house in them. That's not vanilla.

She will do the same for me. I'll make a selection from her large collection of exquisite lingerie. The heating will go up and she'll display herself for me, or lie face down in my lap on the sofa. Vanilla? Hardly.

Sometimes I like nothing more than to be naked around her so that she can enjoy my body and I can enjoy her gaze. One of her favourite sex positions is having me straddle her, allowing my cock to delve inside her and the base to rub against her clit. She knows that my butt is particularly sensitive and so will use her fingers there to make me as hard as possible.

These acts (and more) may seem kinky to some. On reflection, I would agree. But then kink is in the eye of the beholder. I have a beautiful wife who may not be entirely vanilla; I'd be a fool to ignore that. So, time to don that g-string...

Sunday, 14 January 2018

Anal domination

"Is there anything else you've always wanted to try?"


In my experience of discovering BDSM with others I have learned that it makes us realise that fantasies can be fulfilled and curiosities can be satisfied. Once the trust necessitated by bondage play has been established, new possibilities open up. Hence why, on a few occasions, the answer to my question above has been "Anal sex".

Pleasuring myself with someone's asshole is, for me, the ultimate act of domination. This taboo orifice is the last bastion of a submissive's bodily privacy. Once it has been surrendered we both know that they have physically given themselves to me entirely. It's a big responsibility, but one with such wonderful rewards for both.

Of course, the recipient of anal sex isn't necessarily submissive. This is purely my view of it with Dom-tinted glasses. There is also some preparation involved; here's a handy list:

1. Hygiene. Allowing the sub to have some private bathroom time. Douches make the job more thorough, but it's important for participants to be realistic about perfect cleanliness.
2. Stretching. Depending on the size of what's about to be inserted, working up to it with a smaller toy may make anal sex more comfy for both. Tip: put metal butt plugs in the fridge before play for a fun sensation.
3. Lube, some types of which are made specifically for anal play. Keep it within easy reach.

Cleansed, stretched and lubed, my sub is ready for me. On their back, ankles handcuffed to wrists (or secured to a spreader bar), they present themselves. Taking a good portion of lube, I slick my fingers and gently probe, ensuring a good coating inside and out. Finally my condom-clad cock is slimed too. Ready.

Slowly, slowly, I push against that tight ring, watching my sub's face for signs of discomfort. The swell of my glans is the key point, one which can prove to be a bit too much 'nope'. But when it pops in there is then very little resistance there.

Consistent, pleasant tightness, like being gripped in a fist, awaits. A perfect O is formed by her mouth, matching the perfect O that has welcomed me in. It is a look of surprise; surprise at this new sensation and how pleasurable it feels.

Only once has someone orgasmed whilst I made love to their butt. They'd never had anal sex before and the joy of being there as they made this amazing discovery about themselves was truly memorable and a real honour. Lots of hugging ensued.

This leads me neatly on to summarising that care is key when it comes to anal sex. Taking care when preparing, carefully penetrating and being ready with armfuls of aftercare. Such an intimate, delicate act requires this approach. The rewards are a feeling of deep submission for one and benevolent power for the other.

Sunday, 7 January 2018

Do you like being watched?

Being watched. It's a performance, one which varies depending on your audiences predilection. It can start with wearing only underwear, lying back on the bed and lovingly stroking yourself. Visibly hardening until you choose - or are ordered - to get naked.

Such a simple thing. Your body, their lust. The aim now is to elicit an appreciative "yum".

Now unclothed, taking yourself in your hand and slowly, slowly running your finger up and down your shaft. By now, if alone, you'd be furiously wanking, eager to entice out that pleasurable feeling as soon as possible. But you want your audience to enjoy you, you want to excite and tease them to the point where they can no longer resist keeping their hands to themselves.

They've seen this show a hundred times but still you manage to command their attention, still they smile when they see the signs that you're nearly ready. They can't help but grope your thigh, caress your balls and trace a finger along your perineum. VIP access to everywhere but your cock.

Some like seeing as much of you as possible. You stand, pace around the room, giving your appreciative ogler a good view of everything. Being objectified. Giving yourself to their gaze feels so very sexy, doesn't it? Making them wish it was their hands on you? Such power.

Time to let them play. You've brought yourself close to the edge. You've panted, grunted and sighed your way to this moment, arched your back, fondled yourself, made your audience lick their lips in anticipation. Their reward is to hold you as that throbbing release overcomes you. Voyeur becomes participant, exhibitionist becomes toy. One is mentally satisfied, the other physically so.